Anyone who is even remotely aware of professional sports is familiar with the term “instant replay.” Following a play, we are repeatedly treated to numerous camera angles of the same play, as we try to “get it right.” That is, what really happened?
Speaking for myself, perhaps you too, in the game of life, I utilize my own, personal, instant replays. I review my intuitive callings that urge me to make changes to the way I live. You know, I’m referring to those inspirations that say to me, “I need to take action on this,” or “Oh yeah, that feels right,” or “I should make that phone call, sign up for a class, make a change,” kind of thinking. I’m referring to those “I want my life to be better,” thoughts and inspirations. However, in my experience, instead of ensuring the “right” call, if I am not careful, my game of life instant replays, often result in the “wrong” call.
Here’s what I mean. As my instant replays wind on, ruminating on my intuitive, gut level, spiritual thoughts, I can be unduly influenced by facts, or what appear as facts. Facts can be dangerous things. In terms of instant replays, they are too frequently fears presenting themselves as helpful and supportive thoughts. So when my gut says “go for it” my instant replays can turn on resistance by reminding me that;
- I tried this before, and it didn’t work
- I don’t have enough experience
- I don’t have the money
- I’m too uneducated (in that particular field)
- I don’t know where to start
- Someone else can do it better than me
- Feel free to add your own limiting thoughts, there’s lot of them
Conversely, pragmatism does call on us to review our thinking, in order to redirect ourselves, enhance previous ideas, lead us to greater things, or simply keep us out of trouble.
So how do we determine if our instant replay thinking is truly supporting and constructive, moving us into new horizons, or constrictive and limiting to the point of being damaging?
Here’s an easy test.
Are the elements of my instant replay coming from fear or confidence? If from fear, acknowledge your fears, don’t deny their existence, then do what you can to alleviate them, and take steps from a sense of confidence.
Is my primary focus on the worst that can happen, or the best that can happen? It’s OK to acknowledge the worst that can happen, just don’t remain there forever. Then visualize the best, and take a small step in that direction, followed by another small step.
As I look back, three years from now, reflecting on my actions, for what actions taken would I be most grateful? Take them.